Resolve To Be The Person You Need

We all have that person, that no matter what anyone else says, or no matter how much you hear something, until that person says something, nothing else matters. Or is that just me? Sometimes we have different people for different aspects of our lives, work, family, love, hobbies, etc. 

I have been lucky, the people I rely on in my life are generally forward with their opinions and tell me what I need to hear, when I need to hear it, because I am not perfect, far from it. I thrive off feedback, I like to check-in, I like to hear if things are going well, or hear if they aren't going well... I need constant feedback on how things are going. 

We all strive for success in life, often times feeling like the more we try the farther the target gets. I feel like that a lot lately, and sometimes it can push you to goals you never thought possible, and sometimes it can depress like you like crazy thinking you will never get there... often times the fulcrum which decides which way to feel is one person, the feedback of that one person that you are waiting on. Yeah others give you input, but you need it from that one person, and when it's not there, it's hard. 

Sometimes people don't give input, feedback or advice because they think maybe you already heard it, don't want to bloat your ego, or they don't want to hurt your feelings, or think you might already know. However, we assume they don't give input because they don't care. I am struggling with this myself so looking for input as well.

I have one resolution and some suggestions: 

My resolution to all is "To Be the Person You Need". That means to others, to your friends, your co-workers, your family, be for them what you need. Guess what? You might be their one, the one they seek feedback from, the one they are waiting to say something. So being the person you need to others, might open up others to be the one for you. 

Ask the person you need, if you can be there for them on something. Then tell them you need input, tell them how important input is to you, and that you want to give them the feedback they need. 

This year I had several people, tell me things that maybe I didn't want to hear. So this year because someone was the person I needed, I am now trying to be more vulnerable, more open, more introspective. I think it has brought me some clarity on items, clouded others, but made me value certain things more. Mostly all positive, some that I still struggle with, but am growing. 

So I am asking you to be the person you need in 2019. I also am asking you to be the person I need, and help me grow through different challenges and a mixture of support. If anything I think that 2018 taught me is that we need each more now than ever, there isn't room for negative people, so don't be one, and be the person who others need.